Christopher and I are fans of the NBC comedy, Parks and Recreation. In the sweet episode from last week, Leslie celebrates "Galentine's Day" (the day before Valentine's Day) by celebrating her female friends and attempting to find a love match for her best friend, Ann.
Well, I'm not going to try to find any of my single friends a husband; matchmaking has never been my forte! But I do want to take this invented holiday to reflect with thankfulness on the wonderful gift of female friends in my life.
I'm afraid that for many of my single years, I didn't appreciate female friends as much as I should have. My focus was so fully on finding a husband to love that I placed less value on female relationships. Plus, I thought I had more in common with male friends. How little I knew!
But the beginnings of marriage and motherhood have shown me that while a wonderful, loving husband is a gift of God, there are some parts of life that only a woman friend can understand--because your experience is her experience too!
Only a woman can understand the crazy ups and downs affecting our emotions and bodies each month.
Only a woman understands how physically connected we feel to our children, in such a way that we would kill or be killed if only to protect them
Only a woman understands the wonder of feeling a tiny baby growing within your womb.
Only a woman understands how draining it is to have birthed a new baby.
Only a woman understands the guilty feelings as she is pulled between work and home, always feeling she is letting someone down.
Only a woman understands postpartum depression.
Only a woman knows what it is like to feed another human being from her body.
Only a woman understands the anxiety of each stage of motherhood, as we struggle to figure out what is best for our children.
So....for all of my female friends who I am blessed to have in my life...thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for your kind, loving words. Thank you for your Facebook messages and emails when I need a word of encouragement or advice. Thank you for your phone calls. Thank you for cooking for me when I was torn in body and spirit from the pains of labor. Thank you for making time for me. Thank you for encouraging me in faith. Thank you for being a sisterhood to me.
Happy Galentine's Day, ladies! I love you!
while I totally agree with everything here I think it's also important to add a few things from before motherhood
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only a woman understands what it feels like when guys are stupid and break your heart
only a woman understands how a giant bowl of chocolate ice cream at certain times can make the world right again....or a tall glass of wine.
only a women understands what it feels like to be second rate during a given sporting season...which ever one their guy obsesses over each year.
only a woman understands that there are some times in life that guys just don't get it no matter how much we explain things.
Love it, Kristen! Couldn't agree more!
DeleteWe love our hubbies and they love us but there are some things that are difficult for them to "get." I'm sure they feel the same way about us!